Teaching Child Safety Without the Scare

By Greg Pass, VTV FOF Board Member

As the school year begins, safety is on everyone’s mind. While school shootings dominate headlines, it’s important to keep perspective: these incidents, while tragic, are rare. According to the National Institute of Justice, less than eight percent of public mass shootings occur in K-12 schools. Still, even with a low likelihood, preparing our children for emergencies is essential.

Many states now require schools to conduct lockdown drills, so for many kids, these exercises have become a normal part of the school experience. In fact, most children today have practiced safety drills more than their parents ever did. The challenge for parents is figuring out how to reinforce these lessons without creating unnecessary fear.

One of the best ways to do that is through engaging, age-appropriate activities that keep the focus on learning and confidence rather than anxiety. Start by reassuring your children that school remains a safe place to be. Media coverage often magnifies the perception of risk, but preparation should be about building confidence, not panic. History shows that children are capable of staying calm and following instructions during crises. Research further confirms that even young children can retain critical safety information, such as calling emergency services or identifying lifesaving equipment.

So, how can parents help? Two simple games can make a big difference. The first is the “Safety Game”. Think of it like “I Spy” for safety. Wherever you go—school, the grocery store, the movie theater—challenge your child to spot emergency exits, fire extinguishers, AEDs, or first-aid kits. This game trains them to notice important details in their surroundings and remember where to find help if they ever need it.

The second activity is called the “What If?” game. In this exercise, you ask your child hypothetical safety-related questions such as, “What would you do if you smelled smoke in the house?” or “If you heard gunshots at school, what would you do?” Encourage your child to explain their actions step by step rather than giving quick answers. This approach helps them think through their options, practice problem-solving, and feel more confident about what to do in an emergency. Of course, these conversations should always be age-appropriate, using language and scenarios your child can understand without causing unnecessary fear.

The goal of these games is not to make children fearful but to empower them. By turning safety lessons into fun, everyday activities, you can help your child develop awareness and confidence in a way that feels natural and reassuring. While we can’t eliminate every danger in the world, we can give our kids the tools they need to navigate it safely.